Relationships

Hi Friends.
Excuse me for not writing and updating our blog. Little laziness and really had no time.
From sooo many days i wanted to share about relationship in general, but today one instance just got me to write this.
I don't know where to start with, today whenever I think about lost friends, broken relationships, I had in my life I have tears rolling down my cheeks in sadness... exactly this is happening now...haaaa
Which is a true relationship? i still wonder and doubt.

Different faces of relationships: 
All relationships goes through
1. Excitement, love, sharing
2.Then.... Expectation- one should ask me, call me, help me.. should give me importance, treat me like earlier, should not hide anything or should not be selfish with me
3. Disappoinment, irritation, sadness, misery.
which leads to sometimes fights, sometimes sour or bitter ending, being indifferent or kaam chalo attitude/let go acts for your own peace.
This happens in almost every relationship.

I had many friends in my school, college  and Art of living life.Have seen relationship faded over time or expectation.
 Friends do not stay in touch, due to less interaction and increasing responsibilities of life. Communication plays the major role in sustaining relationship. As communication not done at time intervals creates distance, gap, which in turn reduces intensity and relation, apart with not both knowing about it. This is surely happened in my life, few relations just vanished over small things or just gone with time.

Relationship of mom and child is the purest one. Mom does everything for the child, gives the best possible for the child and at the same time even child is soo attach to mom, everything he learns from smallest to big act. In few years mom start having expectations from him and child in turn wants to be independent and wants minimum interaction with his/her mom... - this brings fights, sadness etc....and then child wants to be on his own with his/her new family, his new responsibility and challenges..No one is wrong or right.. intensity in relationship changes... SAD part is gratitude also fades....
how many times are we grateful to any relationship?
Being Grateful all the time, is just Grace.haa!!! really Because 10 positive and 1 negative comment, which one do we remember? i can  see in my own relationships with my family, teachers, volunteers.
Today i realized Parent needs a strong heart to accommodates his/her children with whatever attitude they have and also to see their own children fighting with each other for small land,business etc.

Relationships start with sharing but switchover soon with Giving-Taking and Expectations.
small things makes us upset then negative and it turn to hatred. whom to blame?

Today i have missed or lost so many friends, colleagues and close ones, on this journey of life, for funny and stupid mistakes.

Finally have realized there is only One PERFECT Relationship of Guru and devotee. This relation does not ask or expect things,at least for sure from HIS side. Guru does not want anything but just wants to give.
i am soo fortunate to have Guruji in my life.
Many times people ask why there is a need to Guru?
For me to give me an experience of  perfect relationship.
To make me sense that if the whole world is against you,  i am still there for you,to have that feeling is a blessing. From HIS side, He is completely free from all this...
And my journey continues to move towards THAT Freedom.

Jai Gurudeva!!!